Not much to say, but I feel compelled to write anyhow. Tomorrow we go to Duke. E will be admitted and will have the pre-operative stuff and a CT scan done. He is scheduled for surgery at 7 am Thursday. We spent the morning running errands and tidying up the house a bit. Then we had a visit from friends and then we traveled to my parents’ home for dinner and a visit.
E has been in great spirits throughout most of the day. The visit from friends was appreciated and helpful. At my parents, he got to choose the dinner menu. He had a smorgasbord of his favorite Chinese takeout foods that we all sampled. He even took a picture of the food and us at the table which was a bit unusual of him. We shared lots of laughter and jokes. We then had to say goodbye to D who will be staying with my parents and headed home. I let E listen to his favorite music on the drive home. He finds it utterly hilarious that he has created a Spotify playlist titled, “Songs Mom Will Hate” and is filled with rap songs containing curse words, and the typical sex-drugs-rocknroll theme. But I allowed him to play them on the way home since D was not in the car. He bopped all the way down the road and I had to giggle at him.
I also made a point to tell him how proud I am of him. It’s easy to nag and discipline or point out the shortcomings of your kid. However, it’s super important to me that E hears me tell him all the ways I think he’s getting it right, also. And I sure am confident he’s handling all of this surgery business like a champ. As I shared with him, there are many adults who deal with far less serious things in far worse ways. He has demonstrated joy, peace, and healthy self-care most days since April when the doctors explained he would have this valve-sparing aortic root replacement.
I will have a computer with me while E is in the hospital so I can update all of you, our friends and family. Thank you for your continued support, encouragement, well wishes, and prayers. I look forward to sharing with you that it’s all behind us and he is on the mend.